Friday, February 17, 2012

Tip Three: Help Create (and support) Realistic and Hopeful Pathways

Realistic, Hopeful Pathways

Youth do not attain reachable goals on their own.

Like any of us, youth are more likely to move ahead toward a vision when they know that there is a path to get there. Imagine how useless MapQuest would be if they allowed us to enter the starting point and the destination but did not give us a road map to travel from one to the other.


It is the same with our youth, at-risk or otherwise. Our youth need mature and intelligent adults to help them create realistic pathways, ideally with guardrails. They also need someone to reassure them that they will be given leeway, compassion and forgiveness -- that is, the knowledge that getting off the path does not destroy the dream nor the vision.

We would do well to recognize the difficulty of trying a new path and both prepare youth for obstacles and support them when they run into problems. This can be highly challenging, as some of the youths' erroneous actions will violate rules and guidelines or perhaps even legal boundaries. We must handle such cases individually, with discerning judgment and compassion rather than with the kind of formulaic justice that has led the United States to have the largest school dropout rates and, proportionately, the greatest prison population of any developed country, according to recent reports in the New York Times. This is how, more often than not, promising lives get discarded.


Education Activism IS self-defense. Peter Liciaga (www.peterliciaga.org), your Education Activist and Mount Laurel’s Martial Artist offering help to educators, parents and families with children ages 3 years old and older on safety and personal growth education –for the purpose of saving (and changing) lives. Peter may be reached at 856-278-5282 or on www.Skype.com at peterliciaga.

Peter Liciaga is a member of Tom Callos' The Ultimate Black Belt Test (http://www.ultimateblackbelttest.com/), an undertaking of The 100 (http://www.the100.us/), and a part of Dinoto Karate Center's master instructor staff (http://www.mountlaurelmartialarts.com/)

Peter Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: pliciaga@gmail.com
Skype: Peter Liciaga
Website: http://www.PeterLiciaga.org
Twitter: https://twitter.com/peterliciaga
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/peterliciaga

Contributors:
Mary Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: marymazzucca@yahoo.com
Skype: liciaga.mary1
Facebook: Mary Liciaga http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1440812470

Tip Two: Set SMART and REALISTIC Goals


Part One

Part Two


Education Activism IS self-defense. Peter Liciaga (www.peterliciaga.org), your Education Activist and Mount Laurel’s Martial Artist offering help to educators, parents and families with children ages 3 years old and older on safety and personal growth education –for the purpose of saving (and changing) lives. Peter may be reached at 856-278-5282 or on www.Skype.com at peterliciaga.

Peter Liciaga is a member of Tom Callos' The Ultimate Black Belt Test (http://www.ultimateblackbelttest.com/), an undertaking of The 100 (http://www.the100.us/), and a part of Dinoto Karate Center's master instructor staff (http://www.mountlaurelmartialarts.com/)

Peter Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: pliciaga@gmail.com
Skype: Peter Liciaga
Website: http://www.PeterLiciaga.org
Twitter: https://twitter.com/peterliciaga
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/peterliciaga

Contributors:
Mary Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: marymazzucca@yahoo.com
Skype: liciaga.mary1
Facebook: Mary Liciaga http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1440812470

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Tip One: Building Trusting, Caring and Sustainable Relationships


Tip One: Building Trusting, Caring and Sustainable Relationships

One of the shortcomings of our educational structure is that relationships with teachers, especially in secondary school, may be caring, but they are not easy to sustain. Yet at-risk youth need relationships that are both trusting, caring and stable.

If we are to be effective in working with at-risk youth, we need to strive to build a sense of trust. We must take the necessary time to uncover and communicate the complexity, frustrations, and positive aspects of their lives. Only after creating a strong relational base will we have a platform to be a source of enduring and cherished advice to a youth. Youth may not necessarily confer trust to an adult based on his or her role as a counselor, psychologist, or social worker.

We have to earn it by building a relationship.

Education Activism IS self-defense. Peter Liciaga (www.peterliciaga.org),  your Education Activist and Mount Laurel’s Martial Artist offering help to educators, parents and families with children ages 3 years old and older on safety and personal growth education –for the purpose of saving (and changing) lives. Peter may be reached at 856-278-5282 or on www.Skype.com at peterliciaga.

Peter Liciaga is a member of Tom Callos' The Ultimate Black Belt Test (http://www.ultimateblackbelttest.com/), an undertaking of The 100 (http://www.the100.us/), and a part of Dinoto Karate Center's master instructor staff (http://www.mountlaurelmartialarts.com/)

Peter Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: pliciaga@gmail.com
Skype: Peter Liciaga
Website: http://www.PeterLiciaga.org
Twitter: https://twitter.com/peterliciaga
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/peterliciaga


Contributors:
Mary Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: marymazzucca@yahoo.com
Skype: liciaga.mary1
Facebook: Mary Liciaga http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1440812470

NEW: At Risk Youth Online Video TV Channel



Your Mount Laurel Education Activist and Martial Arts Educator, Peter Liciaga, creates a youtube video channel / playlist with a video series for social workers, educators, parents and anyone working with families with at-risk youth.
Education Activism IS self-defense. Peter Liciaga (www.peterliciaga.org),  your Education Activist and Mount Laurel’s Martial Artist offering help to educators, parents and families with children ages 3 years old and older on safety and personal growth education –for the purpose of saving (and changing) lives. Peter may be reached at 856-278-5282 or on www.Skype.com at peterliciaga.
Peter Liciaga is a member of Tom Callos' The Ultimate Black Belt Test (http://www.ultimateblackbelttest.com/), an undertaking of The 100 (http://www.the100.us/), and a part of Dinoto Karate Center's master instructor staff (http://www.mountlaurelmartialarts.com/)
Peter Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: pliciaga@gmail.com
Skype: Peter Liciaga
Website: http://www.PeterLiciaga.org
Twitter: https://twitter.com/peterliciaga
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/peterliciaga

Contributors:
Mary Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: marymazzucca@yahoo.com
Skype: liciaga.mary1
Facebook: Mary Liciaga http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1440812470


At Risk Youth | A Skype Interview Video Part Two


Your Mount Laurel Education Activist and Martial Arts Educator, Peter Liciaga, has a Skype conversation with Mary Liciaga, a Parent Partner for Parents of At-Risk Youth.

This video is the second of a series of resources created for youth workers, educators, parents and anyone working with families with at-risk youth.

Contributors:

Mary Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: marymazzucca@yahoo.com
Skype: liciaga.mary1
Facebook: Mary Liciaga http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1440812470

Peter Liciaga can be reached at:
Email: pliciaga@gmail.com
Skype: Peter Liciaga
Website: http://www.PeterLiciaga.org
Twitter: https://twitter.com/peterliciaga
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/peterliciaga

Sunday, January 29, 2012

NEW PROJECT: Working With At Risk Youth


Welcome to our site! At Risk Youth Resource Project is designed for educators, parents, youth and teens to gather information about at risk youth and teen issues. We have created videos and pages with tips, suggestions, recommendations and resources from many different sources.

Teen issues included on this site include: teen drug abuse, teenage alcoholism, promiscuity, teen pregnancy, disorders, violence, destructive behavior and more! We also have added links and resources to various types of schools, programs, and treatment options available to parents of at risk youth. To find more information on any of these types - Use the Resource tab on the menu above.
 
 
There are a lot of websites out there that talk about "at risk youth", but there is no real definition that fits this term (in our opinion). We have seen people refer to inner city kids that live in poor neighborhoods as at risk youth, but are they really more at risk than any other? Drugs, alcohol, and youth violence are prominent in almost every area of the United States. Single parent homes, dysfunctional family units, and other social issues have no boundaries either. So we've developed this site with a little something for everyone.
 
 
Here's our definition of an at risk youth (this is our opinion): We believe any child that grows up in this world is "At-Risk" in some way. Children will be exposed to "sex, drugs, and rock 'n roll" at a very early age. Teens will know other kids that do drugs, drink alcohol, or smoke cigarretes. Some parents will do all they can to raise their kids right - and their kids may still make poor choices. The statistics on are sobering. At risk youth can be either male or female, any race, and any age. Each "group" has a different area where they are more at risk, but they are all youth at risk.

We appreciate you visiting our site to gather resouces about the issues that teens face today. We hope that you can find guidance and help for your individual situation to help your child or adolescent.

There are many social experts who study human behavior and argue that today’s kids are under stress as never before. Gang warfare, street stabbings and shootings, proliferation of drugs, binge drinking and the spread of sexually-transmitted diseases all make life tough for today’s teens. And the tragic result is that so many young people are caught up in a dangerous lifestyle and place their health and even their life at risk.

How can you prevent your teen from being placed in the at-risk category? Can you stop any problems before they occur or at least become too serious? Here are some factors about teenage behavior. Is your teen involved in any of these situations? If so, the more situations the greater the likelihood they are at-risk.

1. School life. Is your teen failing at school, are their grades dropping and are they in conflict with staff?

2. Family life. Is your teen rebellious? Do they argue often with their parents and/or siblings? Do they threaten to run away or even go missing for periods of time?

3. The law. Is your teen in troube with authority? Do the police come calling to interview your child about certain incidents?
4. The community. Is your teen a dropout from sporting clubs, the church or other local group activities? Have they abandoned the things which once took pride of place in their life?

5. Unusual behavior. Is your teen prone to lose their cool beyond what might be considered normal? Are they angry and abusive? Do they threaten you or other family members? Have the dropped long-time friendships with their peers?

6. Depression. Is your teen spending long periods of time alone perhaps in their room? Do they speak less and make fewer comments in family conversations? Have they been medically examined for depression? Do they seem listless and disinterested in most things?

7. Sexuality. Is your teen sexually active? Do you know their partner or partners? Is your teen aware of STDs? Is your teen well-informed when it comes to the dangers of unprotected sex?

8. Truthfulness. Have you caught out your teen telling lies? Do they seem secretive and not open and forthcoming? Are they unwilling to give details of where they’ve been or with whom? Do you suspect them of stealing from home?

9. Fear. Are you afraid of your teen? Are you worried that what you say or do will cause them to explode and use bad language? Has your teen threatened you or your family?

10. Self-belief. Does your teen seem to lack confidence? Are they without motivation for most or many things? Do they have an “I don’t care” attitude to life? Have they dropped their bundle?

The above points cover most of how a troubled teen behaves. If your child fits into some of these categories, it is possible your teen is at risk. Now is the time to intervene. Talk to your family doctor and seek professional advice. Do not let the situation drift. The health of your teen may be at risk.